Hi,
Thank you all for you great advice I will certainly follow through with some of your suggestions.

Yes Kim, it is so hard with some families- If someone else in my family ever had a baby I would support their decisions 110%. It is up to the parent no-body else to decide what their children do – especially when their kids are extremely happy, healthy & well behaved!

Emitob I love your suggestion with the mentioning of swimming lessons & telling him we need to need to stick her to a specific routine... Jackrose DD is 18mths & your idea about a ‘safer’ place is a great one especially for maybe the first few times he babysits at least I can be at peace of mind while he gets to bond with her on alone time.
All of you have been such an amazing help & have each given me a piece of advice that has really helped me feel at ease. THANK YOU!!

It is nice to have someone to talk to, somewhere to go & get things off my chest. BB has been such a blessing.