it sounds like you have a perfectly normal, well adapted human baby. Remember, 2 weeks ago she was in your uterus, always fed, always held by you, never alone. She could always here your heartbeat, breathing, voice. Who knows what it's like to be born, but I bet it's a bit of a shock! Often babies are fairly mellow for the first 10 days-2 weeks after the birth, probably getting over the birth, drugs you may have had in labour, jaundice etc. But, then they wake up and become demanding. This is a good thing! These are the babies who will demand to be feb and grow and thrive!
You are a great mum to your other little one - this is the lesson. sometimes the needs of another are greater than your own needs, and sometimes you have to share. Sometimes you have to wait. It does him no harm to learn this.
The housework will wait - accept all offers of food, help with housework and childminding
I am sitting here writing this with DS#2 strapped to my tummy in my ergocarrier. TBH he is not too bad for short stints in the swing, but I just like to have him close, not at the other end of the house. Besides, he sleeps for far longer in it and I have my hands free (to type on here of all things!). I think the position helps his tummy too as he burps alot better in it.
good luck hun, it DOES get better and the others are right, before long you will have forgotten all the fuss of the early days. I know my DS#1 was a really bad sleeper from 6 weeks onwards. We tried EVERYTHING and the only thing that solved it was a visit to Ngala here in WA and they diagnosed it as a sleep issue. Once he learned how to self soothe (he was 12 weeks old by then) with a very gentle approach by us, he was just perfect and started sleeping through the night.
Just to add, if money is tight and you can't keep trying new slings, try and swap with a friend or borrow one from someone to see if your bub likes it. They can get expensive and finding the right one might cost too much.
Thanks for popping in barb, it's reassuring to hear that from a professional, unlike the cyh nurse I just had come to visit... She basically said I had created a bad habit and I need to get him to "snap out of it" otherwise I'll have sleep issues with him for years! Honestly don't know why I agreed to have them come and visit.
How is everyone going with their little ones? I've managed to get kody in his bassinet a couple of times but it doesn't last long, I'll be lucky if he sleeps 30 mins. Glad I'm not alone though!
that was awful advice! i am sorry that she was so determined to undermine you like that (we co-slept, carried in slings for day sleeps feed on demand etc and we have NO sleep "issues"...we have a healthy happy baby that also just happens to like sleeping through! both my girls were into sleeping for longer periods of time but with DD1 i did it the more traditional way of not feeding to sleep and then stressing about leaving her to cry, so this time i thought stuff it and just do what feels good for both of us, and that meant feeding when she wanted and sleeping where she wanted: less tears from us all and she sleeps beautifully at the same age that DD1 did! ). you dont have to snap out of ANYTHING! do what feels good for your family and fly any mean comments like what the CHN said to the wind my dear!
Jaycee, I did all the supposed "bad habit" forming things. I held DS in my arms constantly, had him sleep on me in a sling during the day, he slept in my arms for the first 3 months, next to me for the next few months, then in the cot in side-car fashion within arms reach until well over a year of age. At 19 months of age it was light a switch was flipped and he started sleeping through the night perfectly!
In contrast, I had a friend who did all the "right" things to get a baby to sleep longer (CIO, sleeping in own room, never sleeping in arms etc) and she now has a 4 1/2 year old who still wakes at least 1-2 times a night.
I'm sure it can depend on the baby, but I often think that DS sleeping through the night so perfectly now is because he knows we're always there for him, that we won't leave him to cry, that we'll come to him if he's scared, and that he generally just feels secure and safe
I'm a strong believer in doing what feels right to you and in your heart, and that will be what is best for you both ♥
Despite our best efforts - we did everything wrong too - DS sleeps very happily in his bed every night. I'm totally ignoring that little voice in teh back of my head this time
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(we co-slept, carried in slings for day sleeps feed on demand etc and we have NO sleep "issues"...we have a healthy happy baby that also just happens to like sleeping through! both my girls were into sleeping for longer periods of time but with DD1 i did it the more traditional way of not feeding to sleep and then stressing about leaving her to cry, so this time i thought stuff it and just do what feels good for both of us, and that meant feeding when she wanted and sleeping where she wanted: less tears from us all and she sleeps beautifully at the same age that DD1 did! 
). you dont have to snap out of ANYTHING! do what feels good for your family and fly any mean comments like what the CHN said to the wind my dear! 
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