Could you try giving you dd to hold for 1/2-3/4hr while you doze /close eyes for a bit? That might help get through a bit of the night. I know I ended up doing that at one point (even did a variation that the other week with ds1 who is a bit older and wouldn't have a day nap).

Living on semi-healthy (or otherwise) takeaway for the evening meal for a week or so won't matter if that's what you need to do to survive either.

Depending on what sort of sling you have, it can be easy to feed in one once you've worked out how to position baby.

Have you got any other support apart from your DH that could come over and let you sleep if dd goes to sleep properly while they visit? Maybe they could do the dishes or laundry while you rest do you don't have to worry about that. I find that sometimes just quietly closing my eyes for a bit even if I don't sleep is sometimes enough to keep me going.

Re hayfever, ring your chemist if you can't get there and ask what's safe to take while feeding. I know I was allowed to take claratyne while pregnant and would guess (but not 100% sure) that you'd be able to take some while feeding. I'm pretty sure it is a category a drug.

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