I think i should add here that while i know DD knows that death means they won't be coming back etc I'm not sure i can have a conversation with her about it all. She is still a bit behind in her speech development so while i can say to her all this advice you girls have given me, she won't be able to ask me questions which i know she'll have. So it's a bit hard for me to explain it all to her and then she just say ok but not really get what i mean and so she'll be confused but not be able to tell me, if that makes sense?