Any thoughts on whether O'Connell would be any good for an 18 month old, who is not too bad overnight in general but is a nightmare to get to sleep at night (in day he has is one sleep after a feed fine and 3 days is in daycare and sleeps well for them) - but who is already in a bed (due to climbing issues) and shares with his sister (no other choice apart from back in with us) - DD is now on top bunk earlier than I would have liked but we had to put her out of his reach as he was just getting up and tormenting her (squirting her with water, trying to force feed her water, jumping on her, pointing out her nose etc etc).

A few people I have spoke to think wouldn't be much help as in not sure what they would tell us that don't do, and because he is in a bed and they share a room - but also because he is not actually that bad sleep wise in comparison with many people. We have the odd bad night (usually when he hasn't slept in day and just goes to sleep easy at night through exhaustion) but that is just usually two wake ups with the first one being awake for an hour or so - but in the main after eventually going to sleep at 9:00 ish he sleeps till 4:30 - 5:00 and then resettles with a feed ok till 6:30-7:00 depending on when DD gets up.

I may fingers crossed have a job soon, so DH thinks (probably because he will have to do more in terms of getting DS to sleep etc) we should look into whether would help or not.

He just won't stay still, so the whole leave for 30 seconds then reassure is no good because he is out of bed behind me before I am out the door, and he won't stay still to be patted, stroked, shhhhd basically until he decides he is ready which is around 8:30 - 9:30 but I can see he is tired much before then - and he just behaves like a maniac. When DH has had to put him to bed, he has just held him still until he gives in and goes to sleep but those nights his sleep is terrible overnight so not sure I should try replicate his approach.