I had the same issues when Matilda was younger... and honestly since she's turned 2 I've become more relaxed. BUT before 2 I saw no reason to give processed sugar products into her diet. I found nothing to indicate that it was something of use for her & her system. I found that when I went somewhere with sugary foods I did have to get Matilda away from them as she was inclined to eat the entire bowl of lollies without supervision. I always bring healthy alternatives to parties, even birthday parties. I have been to some birthday parties where they say there won't be all sugar but the alternatives are chips and cheerios and those sorts. So I always bring fruit and snacks with us and try to fill her up on them beforehand and in the early stages of the party. If Matilda is less full, she won't go the lollies bit time.