Pierced Ears?

[Just Me]

I am not a huge fan either - I got mine done for my 8th birthday and I remember them getting infected. I have always thought that I want my kids to be old enough to look after their own ears - clean them etc - as well as their own earrings and stuff. It's a responsibility thing. Also, as a PP mentioned about the positioning of them - I have a couple of friends who got their ears pierced quite young and they have had to have them redone because the positioning hasn't worked as they have gotten older.

If you plan to get your baby's or toddler's ears pierced, apparently there is a numbing gel from the chemist that you can apply half an hour before they have it done to help with the pain. I have friends who have used it and swear by it, but no idea what it is called.

[didispunk]

I had to wait till I was 10 and was well worth the wait...

Think of the reasoning for getting it done??/
So they look cute??? etc..


I would wait.. if they get infected can be very very nasty...

[Jakabella]

I think its very tacky on little kids. I hate it. But each to their own.

[Feijoa Mum]

I think tacky is a bit of a harsh word to use when you are talking about little girls.

ZF My DH is like yours dead against it, but I have always said if I had a little girl she would have her ears pierced.
She has been a long time in coming but she is finally here and such a little girly girl too so I really want to get them done.

Reading through all these stories I think I am going to "work" on DH a bit more selling the sooner rather than later angle for cleaning purposes.

Good luck on your "working" your DH too

[Rouge]

Stacey I couldn't agree more.

[Shanti]

I'm waiting until DD is old enough to tell me if she'd like it done or not.....rather than not giving her the choice. Particularly when pain is involved.

I had to wait until my 12th birthday to get it done, although at the time I thought that was unfair, I can see why Mum waited.

It's not tacky, it's just not NECESSARY.

[barney]

TACKY is not a word id use, it sounds very immature to me when we are talking about LITTLE GIRLS.
i dont believe my baby girl looks TACKY in any way what so eva.

[Moi]

I personally would wait until DD is old enough to ask to have them, old enough for good judgement (that is weigh up the pain, chance of infections, etc against having earrings) and also old enough to have stopped growing. I had to wait until I was 13 before getting my ears done so that my most of my growing was finished and I understood the pros and cons.

Some girls don't ever want their ears pierced. I would hate to force that on someone.

[Nai]

Personally I'm not a fan and I don't want to do anything to my girls until they are ready and they ask. I was 12 when I got mine done and it was my "gift" for finishing primary school. I am glad I waited as it made me appreciate them and it is something special to me. I would like that for my daughters too.

Also I would never do something like that without consulting DP - he would be angry and extremely hurt. With anything like that where it is something special or a "first" he wants to be there to be a part of it.

[Just Me]

Am thinking i might ask DP's cousin to watch the girls while we go to a movie then sneakily ask her to go and get them pierced.. then DP can't say ANYTHING to me..

Getting ears pierced might be a little bit painful and I think they would want their mummy there ... nothing even comes close to cuddles from mummy (and daddy) for a little kid. It might be a bit traumatising for them to be taken by your DP's cousin for something like that and it could have a really bad impact on their relationship. It might also badly affect your DP's relationship with his cousin and cause all sorts of problems.

I can understand your reasoning for wanting your girls' ears pierced, but make it special and do it with the support your your DP

[Spring Angel]

I had to wait until I was 12 and in retrospect I am glad my parents made me wait. I believe that any sort of body modification should be the choice of the person being modified. I think that if I ever have a daughter I will 1. wait for her to express a genuine desire to have her ears pierced and 2. make sure she is at an age where she can take responsibility for the cleaning/turning etc.

I feel uncomfortable with the concept of piercing a childs ear lobes for a purely asthetic effect. I don't judge those parents who have made the decision on their child's behalf, but it is not a decision I would personally make.

ETA: I really strongly suggest not going against your DP's wishes. Imagine if the shoes were on the other foot and you didn't want them and he went behind your back? It is a pretty deceitful thing IMO and I'd hate for it to cause a fight between you two.

[Phteven]

I'm not a fan of earrings on babies but each to their own.

I'm more concerned about you wanting to go behind your DP's back. If I told DH that I didn't want my boys to have their ears pierced or their hair cut and he went out and did it anyway I would be utterly furious.
And asking your DP's cousin to be the fall guy is really underhand. It's not just disrespecting your DH it's also causing trouble between him and his family.

[loulabelle]

I think tacky is a bit of a harsh word to use when you are talking about little girls.

I think the tacky has been used because that is what the op asked.
She said "do you think it's tacky"

[Mum2SweetCs]

i got my ears pierced when i was only a few months and my sister too. We got ours done with a needle. It was more of a cultural thing I think.

I never lost my earrings and our ears never got infected. My sister always lost her earrings though!

I also find them cute on girls but cannot subject DD to them as she is already mega mega scared of injections let alone a loud gun, so for me, i will be waiting.

Goodluck with convincing your DH, afterall the choice is yours =)

[CrazyLady]

I had mine done at 6 but DD's ear lobes are too tiny. I was going to get them done but I think I'll wait a bit. I call her Pixie because she has really tiny but slightly pointed ears

[~Jayne~]

Hey There Chick,
My girls both have their ears pierced. Claudia was just over 12 weeks old & Jess was closer to 5 months. Jess had very small ear lobes & they wouldn't pierce them until they were big enough - which is why I waited longer. For me, I just preferred to have them done when they were little & didn't know to pull & tug at them & make them infected.
It's completely a personal opinion though but I really stress you gets DH's 'approval' first. Just because you are piercing them, KWIM?
Now that Jess is 6 & Claudia is almost 4, Santa always leaves them a cute pair of earrings in their santa sacks at Christmas. You can pick cute little hoops or birth stone studs up at the jewellers when they are on sale. I just recomment that you always put either sterling silver or gold in their ears. I find that if it's not pure, they make my kids ears infected.
HTH!
Love Jayne
PS _ Taking a lollypop along with you works an absolute treat!!! As soon as the gun goes off, shove the lollypop in their mouth. Mine were too young for that, but I have seen it on the older kids & it's a brilliant distraction.

[Liz]

I don't like it on babies at all. I agree that it's something they should ask for, and get done when they're old enough to look after them themselves. When I read the circumcision comment, I must admit, that thought entered my mind too (altho I probably wouldn't make a direct comparison) It's cosmetic, and I think it should be up to the person that's getting it done.

Plus.. it's one less present you have to think up when they're older! haha. It was great fun going and getting my ears pierced, and I still remember reading the card from mum that said I could go and get them done

[Jellyfish]

I've never had my ears pierced and also don't plan to. I would be upset to have had that choice made for me.

DD will be able to decide for herself when she can understand the responsibility.