I had DD done when she was 7 months old, never had any problems with them, however I did go to a pro not just the run of the mile hairdresser.. They numbed her ear with some cream and DD didnt even flinch nor did she cry.

Now that she is 3 1/2 years old she loves them..

I had mine done when I was 6 months old and Im so greatful my mother did them when I was little cos I cant stand needles and for me it worked out well..

If it was me I think you and your DP need to sit down and talk about it.. I wouldnt do it on the sneak.. But thats me.. Good luck I hope you find out what works for you..