please tell me this is normal

[onthefly]

They do get overwhelmed with emotion very easily - everything is a major drama (good and bad). They need us to help learn to soothe themselves and that means staying calm. Shouting really does make it worse. I'm not saying this to have a go at you, but speaking for experience I'm training myself to stay calm, deep breath, count to 10, etc
Most of what they learn, they get from us - so when we stay calm and soothe ourselves, we are showing them how to behave in these situations too. My son got into the habit of saying 'eh' all the time. It drove us bonkers. Of course he picked it up from us. And then he figured out it was annoying so did it even more

Sometimes diet (certain foods, additives etc) can play havock with them. That's something you may want to consider - is there any connection with particular foods/drinks?
The other thing is hunger. My DS is absolutely feral when he's hungry but he almost never asks for food! It took me a while (and I still forget sometimes) but I finally realised this and when he starts losing it I now shove some food in his hand. 90% of the time it helps.

ETA - MN made a great poitn about preparing them for things. That really helps us heaps with DS. We always talk about what's coming next and what will happen, and crucially perhaps, we disucss what we expect from DS.

[sirenz]

thanks ladies

MadB, I definately do understand you when you say yelling at them makes it worse, and I do yell at him alot lately because i''m at my wits end
Diet is definately not the problem, he doesn't have any food with any additives, or added sugar (we try to eat all natural/unprocessed foods), and we have our own organic veggies grown at home, which he loves

I always prepare him for things before we go out and tell him what I expect of his behaviour, unfortunately it goes in one ear and out the other

I just don't see other kids carrying on as much as my ds, it worries me a little bit, perhaps he has some sensory disorder? He gets very emotional about everything, most kids have fun playing - especially with other kids, where as he will spend the whole time (i mean the whole time) whinging that the kids didn't do this or that. We took him to an animal farm the other weekend, me and dh didn't enjoy ourselves at all. DS whinged the whole time and he seemed distracted by little things instead of being like the other kids and enjoying the animals. He didn't want to feed them, pat them or even go near them, he seemed somewhat overwhelmed by the whole thing (which would be normal for maybe a little while, but it was the whole time we were there he acted like this). I just don't get it at all.

[onthefly]

If you feel it may be more than the usual, then there's no harm whatsoever in following that up with your doctor Sirenz. And if there is an issue, then the sooner you get onto it the better for all of you.

[Catastrophic]

If you feel it may be more than the usual, then there's no harm whatsoever in following that up with your doctor Sirenz. And if there is an issue, then the sooner you get onto it the better for all of you.

^Agreed