DS is 2.5 and will be 3 when the new baby comes in april. he has become toilet trained in the last month and we are working on the dummy. He has been an amazingly easy kid im waiting for it to come back and bite me! he decided 8 months ago in the middle of the night he just wasnt going to sleep in a cot anymore and a month ago decided he didnt want a nappy and began potty training VERY easily and on his own terms. Dummy seems to be the hardest thing. ive been told to use it as currency to buy him something he wants to replace it but he isnt keen. my mum had 4 of us and said take the dummy away asap but dont leave it close to the due date because it will make it harder on DS and possibly create some jealousy. i think its all about timing and understanding what they need and how they feel about it. he is aware there is a baby in my tummy and loves coming to see the baby on the doctors telly. We are going to try to get him to help with feeds and let him put the babys socks on etc but not push it on him and my DP and i have made a strict plan that our DS will get alone time with both of us at some stage of every day.