thanks guys. it is working great. and he can sort of settle himself when i put him in to his cot more or less asleep.. when MIL looks after him, she just props in his dummy and he goes straight to sleep for her, hmmm but this does not work for me.. i am yet to get DH to put him to bed at night. but want to try this. friends think i am crazy doing this.. also sometimes if he is over tired and very restless will give a little boob to settle.. have no idea what will happen when i stop B/F, as i find he loves the boob for comfort more then a dummy if needed....