question for those who have bub in a bassinette in their room and your DH/DP

[phebee]

I am envious of you all. We have a tiny little box house with no room for another bed. The couches are far too uncomfortAble to lie on. DH is a very light sleeper and is the worker ATM. I have no choice but to feed DD in the lounge. I have been feeding / trying to resettle her for 1.5 hours now. DH's alarm has just gone off.


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[briggsy's girl]

DH used to get up, pass DD to me (cot on his side of the bed, grab a nappy, then lay there holding her hand while i changed her (or change her while i held her hand/stroked hair etc). once nappy was changed, i'd lay down to feed her, and he'd take the dirty nappy to the laundry and come back into the room. DD fed to sleep most of the time, so he'd lay there facing us and go back to sleep. i would lay with my arm over her head and down beside her whichever way we were facing, so that i was either creating a barrier between her and Daddy (he never rolled towards her, but when he worked away and would get home, exhausted, in the wee hours, it was a precaution. when she was on the other side of the bed, he'd lay right on the edge of the bed and drag me close to him - i think she ended up with nearly half the bed! When DD was asleep again, he'd put her back in her own bed. he never whinged about lack of sleep or anything

now that she is older, she still rooms in with us. our house is very long, and neither one of us wanted to get up in the cold to go to her when she was waking in the night when we first moved here. if she wakes, DH is still the one to get up to her - even though her bed is on my side fo the room! He is the SAHP now, and will try and resettle her without disturbing me too much. not that it works - i am still awake the whole time she is - but it's nice that he does it!

he's never complained about it at all. in fact, he told his bestie "we brought her into the world together, we'll both do the parenting - even the bad bits like midnight wake ups"!

when he worked away, i did it all solo, but the minute he was home again,he just stepped in. he didn't have to - i could have continued doing it - but he wanted to

so i guess after all that waffle! there is no issue for us with lost sleep due to bub. we've both been the sahp while the other works, and we simply accept that it is what it is. sometimes you don't get a full night sleep...