Questions about 8 month old

[KimmyF]

The night time waking is beginning to become an issue as when he wakes i go in re wrap him back up, put his dummy back in and resettle by either cuddles or patting him off to sleep, if he wakes around 4am i will give him a BF but am tryiing not to before then. LAst night he woke at 1.40 i was in his room with him until 2.45 and he would not settle, i would nearly get him to sleep and he would cry to wake himself up, i was so exhausted that i was crying myself, i was just about to feed him when DH came in and said that i need to be harder on him and he sent me back to bed, DH wrapped him up put dummy in and let him cry, 15mins later DH went back in did the same and he fell asleep, all the while i am laying in bed crying listeniing to him cry. He then slept until 6.30am when he woke then he came in to our bed for a feed and went back to sleep with me until 9am
I don't understand what i have done wrong to make him this unsettled at night, he won't settle for anyone but me unless he is left to cry until he wears himself out and i can't stand letting him cry. I am going back to work on the 27th of this month nd am worried about how we will both cope on this amount of sleep let alone my guilt and worries of leaving him in family day care and how the poor woman will cope with this baby that wont settle and is now refusing a bottle!
Aggh sorry this has turned into such a whinge but i am so tired, worried and upset about everything its clouding my thinking and i don't know what to do! Please pass on any words of wisdom or advice to help me get through this