Questions for cosleepers

[Arimeh]

I was scared that I would roll on them, especially when dd3 was 2 months and I was over 100kg!

I slept on my side with my arm out and put her head on my arm. I also wrapped my other arm around her and put my knee up so I would be less likely to roll over. I never did and I turned into a pretty light sleeper anyway.

[LuluHB]

You're not being irrational at all. It took me quite a few weeks to get used to DD3 being next to me and to actually sleep while remaining dead still myself - bit like learning to sleep with your DH really, only their snoring is cuter ;-)

I didn't have nightmares about suffocating her, but when she started having a few nights in her cot I would wake up in a panic and start throwing the doona off the bed searching for her, forgetting that I'd put her down in her own bed.

If you're worried, could you maybe try putting a pillow between you and bub around waist height for you so that you'd have to roll over it before you got to the baby? Alternatively, could your DH sleep somewhere else for a few nights so you can have your side of the bed to yourself, bub has your DH's side (with pillows/mattresses on the floor in case he crawls his way out without you waking - but that's enormously unlikely!). Might help you to get used to the idea of having bubs in bed with you without space being an issue. I sleep sooooooo much better when my DH goes and sleeps with one of the other girls and I get the bed just to myself and DD3.