You need to find what works for you. Don't feel pressure to do what everyone else is doing if it doesn't work for you. The nocry sleep solution by Elizabeth Pantly is a great read to help you establish what works for you whether it be a routine or just revising your settling techniques.

Ari is not a good sleeper - hasn't been since about 3 mth. We called the sleep school here but their techniques and I don't fit very well. We had a lot of success with chiropractic treatment and reorganising her eating/sleeping schedule. We realised that she was hungry just before she got tired but she was too tired to eat so she work early and then was too tired to eat. By moving meal times aroun d a bt it mde a big difference.

She still varies her routine - sometimes she has a nap at 9am for 2hrs othertimes she won't go down until midday and only had 1hr but she is happy so it's working for us. All the best