thanks for your replies - i'll get on to that Pinky McKay, never heard of her, and i might check out that 'raising boys' book too as Evans the first boy my family have had to deal with!!! LOL!!

Are you after something which is more about trusting your instincts and gentle parenting or more of the spiritual / hormonal / chemical kind about bonding?
Yeah, maybe if there is anything like that, that you know of i'd certainly be interested in having a look.

Thanks again girls!