I also feel that this couple shouldn't be judged. Why shouldn't they have felt the joy of bringing a baby into the world? Surely you can see how strong a desire it is for some people to have a baby, if it wasn't then people wouldn't keep trying after suffering miscarriage after miscarriage and go through IVF. Would it be fair to say that people who have had one miscarriage shouldn't ever get pregnant again incase they miscarry again? After all it's a possibility that the baby will not make it if they get pregnant again.
I'm sure that when that child grows up he will be greatful that his parents wanted him so much that they gave their lives just so he could be born and live the life that they couldn't. He is their legacy, their connection to this life and I think that's beautiful.
How very sad for all involved. I don't think I could say whether it was right or wrong, it's something very interesting to ponder. I sort of think of it from this perspective - people with cancer as still 'living' with cancer and have the right to carry on their lives like anyone else. And maybe the baby gave them hope, in the sense that, what if they suddenly went into remitition and became well again? I'm one of those people who always thinks a cure for anything will be around the corner (even though I know that reality is very different - I guess I'm just the eternal optimist!) and will hopefully always live my life that way, and maybe that's what they believed too.
Like I said, I can't really say whether they should or shouldn't have done what they did, but it is certainly very interesting. I hope the little boy is being well looked after and I'm sure he will have a great respect for his parents.
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