With the day sleeps I'd go with the flow... I remember Elijah went through similar at a similar age, not wanting to sleep in the day but then continued to again and now only has 2 or 3 a week, just as a catch up I think. Nights, he was still BFing, but now will actually fall asleep on dad's shoulder and then transfers to his bed. If he wakes up at night I have to reach over (he's in his cot next to me in our room lol... yup, STILL haha) and hold his hand lol. I just do what I gotta do so that I get sleep! If she didn't have day sleeps every day it might be easier to get her down at night, I've noticed it in a big way how much easier it is and I don't have to spend literally hours laying next to Elijah to try to put him to sleep. Hope it settles for you all soon xoxox.