Its very reassuring that Shae is not the only baby that has gone through this and that its perfectly normal. I have always felt that I would be a good attentive mother but never wanted to wrap her in cotton wool itms.
Being constantly told little things like "she has separation anxiety" or "x won't to that with her baby" or "x makes y wait until x is ready to feed y" and such, really does wear me down. I am usually a strong willed, confident person but sometimes I feel like I am doing all the wrong things by trusting my instincts and doing what comes naturally to me.
TBH I can't understand why people feel the need to make comparisons and criticisms, it is the least beneficial form of "support" , wouldn't be a hassle if it was at least constructive
Thank you all,I am so glad its a normal part of development and that she will grow out of it eventually and make everyone else feel better about themselves.
Nae- i think you're doing a marvellous job and I think you have set the boundaries just right - at such a young age, of course they're going to want mum to settle them - its what they are used to, and at that age, they don't really need anyone else.
As for the sleep thing, DD was the same and would sleep much better on me if we were at home, so I would often just let her. It wasn't far past teh 16wk mark that I started noticing the difference with putting her down for sleeps. And DD is now a very happy and sociable 20month old.
I always find that my parents are happy to let us parent how we want, and its the InLaws that make comments etc. I wonder if its because I feel I can tell my parents straight how it is, and feel that I have to pussy-foot around the Inlaws?
If you have a happy, contented baby then keep going with your instincts! Something must be right.
Charlie wanted to basically superglue to me until about 6 months of age and wouldn't go to anyone. She didn't even like to be put on the floor. My child is happy and content now because I gave her the security she needed.
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