She is anti Daddy

[hj1981]

Snacks - DH works monday - thursday one week and than tuesday - friday next week, and he is gone before she gets up, and he gets home around 1700 and she is in bed at 2000 these days so no there isnt much time for them to be together, so that could be playing a big part of it - but on his days off it use to be his day to most things with her so they still had some sort of time together, but those days have now well and truely gone!
Should he maybe just put up with her screaming, and hold her until hopefully she stops???

[Je$$_84]

My DD is almost 9 months and still only spends 5 mins at a time with her daddy.

Dont get me wrong i know she loves her daddy but 5 mins is all she gives him. (not that he tries hard, he just says "she hates me)

[hj1981]

Jess - i thought DD's were suppose to be Daddy's girls - maybe we have a new breed of daughters that are mummy's girls - hehehe

Krysalyss - we had a slight break thru last night - DD had a shower with dad and was happy doing that again - so we might keep that up and see how it goes.
Also the bonding idea is a good idea while she sits on my lap - we will also give that ago -however she wont even sleep in my arms until her last feed before bed, and thats "routine" so to say so i dont want to change that one just yet! Thanks for ur help

[Je$$_84]

Hj- It annoys me cos DD has" daddy eyes" sh egets excited seeing him but thats bout as far as it goes. he takes her and she lasts 5 mins and is kicking and squirming to try to get back to me. I know its probably seperation anxiety but come on. My Ds is a mummies boy and now my DD is a mummies girl too... I think DP is feeling feeling deflated and a bit left out.

I used to love it and now its a burden. i cant even hand her over to go to the loo. Now she crawls that fast to try to catch me i have to put her in the cot so i know she cant get to anything on her way.

GL. Hope for your sake and mine that our girls decide they wanna go to their daddies

[Snacks]

Snacks - DH works monday - thursday one week and than tuesday - friday next week, and he is gone before she gets up, and he gets home around 1700 and she is in bed at 2000 these days so no there isnt much time for them to be together, so that could be playing a big part of it - but on his days off it use to be his day to most things with her so they still had some sort of time together, but those days have now well and truely gone!
Should he maybe just put up with her screaming, and hold her until hopefully she stops???

It sounds like he's around for her a fair bit then, which is great even though it doesn't feel that way right now!
In answer to your question, of course it is up to you, but I probably wouldn't get him to keep holding her while she's really upset while you are still there. I don't think she will understand and there may will be some negative associations formed in regard to being with him meaning she can't get to you, KWIM? The exception to this, I reckon, is if you need a lie down or a walk or some space to yourself, in which case I'd say if you go elsewhere for a short while they will be just fine without you. If your DD can't see you, she will probably get upset when you leave but then be fine with him while you are gone - he can distract her with other stuff. The more often they do it, the more comfy she'll get.
I think it's a case of trying different stuff. And also getting your DH to acknowledge that little babies are so dependent on their mums, it is REALLY nothing personal against him. I hope it gets better for you guys soon!