She is anti Daddy

[hj1981]

My little girl is very anti daddy at the moment! and its driving me insane! i cant hand her over to him without her screaming for the whole time she is with him!
is this normal?
and what can we do to fix it?

[sneakysparkle]

I think its normal hun - but it wont always be like that...
I think its a normal part of the bonding process. I know it can be annoying, but she loves you!!!

[hj1981]

i know she loves me and i was so touched and secretly thrilled when she did it the first few times, but now........... i just need a break!!!
and its breaking DH's heart also!

[sneakysparkle]

hang in there hun (& DH!)
try and give her to him when she is super happy and relaxed, that might help.

[Snacks]

Oooh, yes, I remember!
Does she see very much of him? (i.e. does he work long hours?) My DD has always been happier with DH when she spends lots of time with him. There are still things that she only wants me for (e.g. putting her to bed) but if she has spent time with him then she is much more affectionate with him.
In the early days, because it was a matter of necessity that I spend the most time with her (bfeeding every 2-3 hours, and sleeping a fair bit) I found that she wasn't content with DH unless she'd just had a feed and was happy and sleepy. Otherwise, she'd chuck a fit.
Once she was older and they could do more things together because I wasn't feeding her all the time, she was heaps more comfy with him.
I hope there is something helpful in there! Just wanted to say I know how it feels, and she will get more used to your DH as they have more opportunities to spend time together, KWIM?

and its breaking DH's heart also!

Awww, yeah, it is so hard for them. DH still gets upset when DD decides she'd rather like me to do something for her than him. Dunno what to suggest here.

[krysalyss]

I can only suggest not to push it. It is hard for her to bond if she feels like you have gone.
Get him to do lots of bonding with her on your lap so she can see both of you. Show him what things she really likes like tickles or her favourite toy. Get her to sleep on him even if it once she is actually asleep as she will breath in his scent while she sleeps. Co=sleeping etc. is great for bonding but even if they do it for an hour while he watches tv before bed (if she is a cot sleeper).
HTH

[hj1981]

Skybie - i must admit pushing Daddy back out the door is kinda cute!!!

Thanks Sneaky - we are trying to hang in there - surely almost 2wks is long enough she is going to have to start loving daddy again soon!
it slowly built up with DD not letting dad bath her, now he cant even so much as look at her, let alone pick her up, cuddle her or feed her!!!
and too make matters worse she is teething i think - so she is even more needy, but its poor me that has to deal with it! so there isnt much time where she is super happy and relaxed these days! hahahaha

She is not even 4mths old yet - isnt that a bit young to be playing favourites?

[hj1981]

Snacks - DH works monday - thursday one week and than tuesday - friday next week, and he is gone before she gets up, and he gets home around 1700 and she is in bed at 2000 these days so no there isnt much time for them to be together, so that could be playing a big part of it - but on his days off it use to be his day to most things with her so they still had some sort of time together, but those days have now well and truely gone!
Should he maybe just put up with her screaming, and hold her until hopefully she stops???

[skybie]

my DD is like that a few days a week but only for an hour or so, when DF comes home from work she cries and tries to push him back out the door!!!! but then an hour later she calms down and gives him kisses and cuddles. i think its because when DF gets home DD doesnt have my full attention coz im busy talking to DF.
DF gets pretty heartbroken about it all, but he knows once she calms down she loves him again