"Is she a good baby?"

[alioops]

Yep they are good kids, they let me know what they need when they need it, and like to spend time with me

[Muffy]

argh i always get this question and depending on the type of day or night that i have had will determine what answer they get!

[Gigi]

my memory (of having a nb) is being asked over and over "how long does she sleep at night?" - it felt such a competitive question at the time. Like, depending on the number i said, whether i'd passed a test or not.

my child slept for two hours at a time, so i always felt i failed this "test". but that's when she was hungry and needed changing. so if that's what she needed, that's what she needed.

I especially didn't like being told that if i put her on formula, that would be the magic bullet, she would sleep, i would sleep. Yeh, but she wouldn't be breastfed then. My choice was to breastfeed, i quickly found out, most people didn't approve of me breastfeeding - hang on, this is MY baby, i have made my own choice and am actually very happy with that, thank you very much.

i did feel an emotional distance from people who had bubs who slept all night, didn't feel they understood what i was going thru, why i didn't leave home to go to playgroups etc - cos i was too shattered to get to a 9am playgroup (plus i had post birth health complications from a c-section that went wrong).

[christy]

My answer was always 'Nope, he's awful, but they forgot to tell me that you void the warranty when you take them out of the packaging, so we're stuck with him now'.

ohhh thats a good one!

I generally say to them "Nope she's pure evil" and smile. People usually laugh, but older people get quite upset and run away. When I said it to MIL she just looked at me, and looked at DD1 and looked at me again trying to work out what I was saying... eventually she realised it was my sick sense of humour...

[Lolli]

my memory (of having a nb) is being asked over and over "how long does she sleep at night?" - it felt such a competitive question at the time. Like, depending on the number i said, whether i'd passed a test or not.

my child slept for two hours at a time, so i always felt i failed this "test". but that's when she was hungry and needed changing. so if that's what she needed, that's what she needed.

I especially didn't like being told that if i put her on formula, that would be the magic bullet, she would sleep, i would sleep. Yeh, but she wouldn't be breastfed then. My choice was to breastfeed, i quickly found out, most people didn't approve of me breastfeeding - hang on, this is MY baby, i have made my own choice and am actually very happy with that, thank you very much.

i did feel an emotional distance from people who had bubs who slept all night, didn't feel they understood what i was going thru, why i didn't leave home to go to playgroups etc - cos i was too shattered to get to a 9am playgroup (plus i had post birth health complications from a c-section that went wrong).

I used to feel like a 'failure' too, for that very reason- if I admitted he was a 'bad' baby who didn't sleep all that much, then did that make me a 'bad' mummy? If I had a dollar for everytime I said "i'm bf'ing", only to be met with a roll of the eyes and "well, one bottle before bed would fix that problem".....

[Willow]

It's a stupid question that makes good mums feel like they're being tested and I LOATHE it when people ask me that. Like because your baby sleeps through the night that makes you a great mum? Well no, actually, it just makes your baby a good sleeper!

As a nb, DS left a lot to be desired in the sleep stakes. He was a breastfed baby and slept well at night, was always settled no crying etc so to me,that was good. Did he sleep through the night? No. Nor did I expect him to!!!

Next time I'm just going to tell people to shove it! LOL!!

[Visitor8]

I think the amount of babies that actually sleep right through is minimal ... so the sleeping thing is just stupid.

Ashton STILL wakes 3 or 4 times most nights for a feed, but I don't expect him to sleep through. Who would?

[Jennifer13]

I remember Lulu's response to this from a while back:

Well, she hasn't crashed the car or been dragged home by the cops yet, so she's okay.

Being now obsessed with correcting misinformation on how babies are 'supposed' to behave I would say: What do you mean by that?

[Pretty Butterfly]

God I hate this question!!!

Ad is getting sick of it too, and recently said " nup, she's a complete biarch, you want her?"

Would I go back 6 times if babies were "bad?"

[min]

I used to say all babies are good, but some are unhappy, mine is happy most of the time.