DS had really bad seperation anxiety from about 5 months. He didn't even want DH. We tried DH doing all the fun stuff, carrying around old breast pads, giving a bottle of ebm... nope, DS wanted me. Even joint cuddles (held by me and us both hugged by DH) weren't always welcome.

Therefore we let him have me as much as possible - I cooked with him on my hip, I showered playing peek-a-boo (DS hates showers too), I co-slept and DH had a camp-bed in another room.

Then DS grew up, got over it, knew that Mammy and Da both loved him and enjoys life. He was 11m before DH would try to take him on his own though!

Don't know what I'd do if I had to look after an older child at the same time as well though.