I have wanted to bring this up for months and months but was a little embarassed i guess..
My DD always has to either touch, pinch or bite my boobs. When she is upset she cuddles me and tucks her hands between my boobs. She sticks her hands in my bra and often pulls down my top and bra to see them.
Nothing i do or say to her makes her stop, i tell her that it hurts and she shouldn't do it and she either becames hysterical or she becomes shy. Right this very minute she is cuddled up to me with one hand down my top.
And for those who don't know i didnt BF at all. Any ideas as why shes so obsessed?
Mine is similar - seems to be a happy place for her. I'm pretty slim so I guess it's the softest place on my body! I agree with Janie, probably a comfort thing. I wear her in an ergo so she's quite used to being snuggled down in there and it settles her. It is a little embarrassing when she yanks down my top in public but oh well.
I wore her in a baby bjorn sling right up until about a month ago. But she is always sitting on my lap. My boobs are rather big so there is no missing them so i don't know if she likes them because they are there.
Because they are a soft, warm, squishy, snuggly part of mummy!
Miss P is also obsessed with holding my boobs, although we are still BF. My DS is 6 and was only BF for a few months (even then, he was primarily FF) and he STILL likes to snuggle into my boobs or stick his hand in my top.
My dd always has her hand down my top! It is definitely just warm and snugly to her. She is still bf.... And will ask for boob too.... While her hand is down there like she's digging for gold.... But given the chance.... She also goes for my mums too..... And well..... They don't have the 'goods' like mine, which is why I put it down to comfort.
Dd was also obsessed with elbows for a while there too
I wouldn't think your dd is being spiteful.... She just likes it and doesnt realise she's being rough. If she bites, or pinches.... I'd just saw OW.... Be gentle and take her hand away. If she smacks you back after that, I'd say.... No hitting.... Or something.... And move away for a min.
Don't be embarassed.... Seems there are a few boobie fondlers out there
Young children have limited impulse control - they can no something is not appropriate, but not be able to stop themselves doing it. 15 months is still very much a baby (i know you dont like the term, but intellectually, she is still on a huuuuuuuuuuuuuge learning curve, and baby is much more apt than child to describe her)
it's a comfort thing - can you try to replace your boobs with some other comfort item (blanket/toy) - DD needs to put hands down tops - mine, Daddy's, Granma's - it's nothing to do with BF, it's just what she does. we all accept it - and remove it when it's not an appropriate time/place and try to distract her (rather than saying no, we redirect her attention to something else)
She has a thing for ears as well, she plays with our ear when shes tired or upset. When shes happy and content its her hand down my top. usually when i am watching tv i will redirect her hand to my ear or ill rub her head as a distraction but sometimes she doesnt like that and then goes straight for my boobs again.
I'm not bothered now knowing its a comfort thing and totally normal. I probably could be more patient and understanding. I look at her and i don't see a baby i see a little girl so at times i expect her to understand and know.
My 4 & 2 year old still do this, Haha! Try to ignore it, if it doesn't get a reaction eventually it will pass.... If she is biting or smacking just put her down and move away. She's far to young to understand what you are trying to say, so at this age it's best to provide actions.
She's obsessed with my boobs!
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