i only buy shoes from a kids shoe shop .. my DD has an E width shoe.. so need to buy Clarks or Osh Kosh.. I try and get them on sale.. try Betts kids or SHoes & Sox.. they have specialists who are used to dealing with upset little toddlers.. good luck.. also check your child care policy do they need to were a hard soled shoe or can they were a softer slipper.. maybe a softer shoe might be easier for her