She'll do it in her own time, with whom she wants. Most shy children do - those who are forced to socialise can develop some nasty anxiety issues around socialisation (we all know quieter people who don't like using the phone, for example).
FWIW, my DS is "shy". It rocks. He generally won't talk to strangers, doesn't like to be too far from me when we're out and about, keeps my little secrets (like I'm 26, according to Liebling). Some people he takes to and won't shut up, but that's fairly unusual.
Yes, I'd like him to talk to friends of mine he doesn't know well. I'd love him to say "thank you" to people he doesn't know who do nice things (like holding a door open). I'd be happy if he could meet people without hiding behind me for 10 minutes first.
But I'd much rather he didn't talk to strangers or even "people I only see 3-4 times a year for a few hours", given that child abduction rates haven't gone down since the 1970s.
Yes, I think that's good advice Lulu - I'll encourage her to be polite but not go outside her comfort zone.
FB - I don't necessarily see talking to strangers as a bad trait in DD1 and one that will put her in danger. I realise the term "talking to strangers" has dangerous connotations but to me I see the danger as one of compliance ie. doing what a stranger asks you to do/going where they ask you to go. That's so not DD1 but is definitely DD2.
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but is definitely DD2.
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