I agree. mindset is the biggest battle. DS1 has rarely slept through. he's almost 3 and only just starting to go from 8pm-2am on a good night. DS2 has been marginally better sleep wise but between the two of them I'm still pretty wiped out. I call it 'surrendering to the crapness.' With DS1 I wasted so much energy stressing about sleep.... I would cry and say I couldn't do it anymore. This time I don't cry.... or struggle much at all. I've got a killer nap routine going and I just make sure to balance housework with rest. If I can keep my house organized and have a 2hr nap on kindy days I'm pretty satisfied.

adjustment of expectations is key here. For sure. I expect to be woken hourly. I expect to be tired. I also expect squishy cuddles and sweet smiles in the morning. The half-awake fumbling for breakfast is much more pleasant when it's met by a chubby grin and a 'Thank you Mama!'

DP says I'm crazy wanting another baby ..... I say I'll trade a few more years of crap sleep for another little person to love. When I'm 90 I'll never look back and say 'gee if I had one less baby I'd have gotten more sleep'. I almost have him convinced lol. Oh how perspectives change in a few short years.