Hi,
My 2.5 year old had his tonsils and adneoids out when he was about 22 months old. He continuously stopped breathing at night and was a dreadful sleeper, and still is mind you. I just can't believe the long and drawn out process that you go through. I went to my GP and got a referral to the local ENT. We got into see him within a week, told him the story (my husband has sleep apneoa as well) and in 2 days my son was in hospital having the operation. He does not stop breathing during the night anymore and when he is asleep he is not tossing and turning - it's amazing. We just have to get him out of the co-sleeping habit now and everything will be perfect... LOL. I am just blown away with your waiting time and sleep overs etc. Dreadful!!! Good luck with it all - it is definitely worth it!