Thanks ladies
I do think her ears and or neck are part of the problem. She is off wheat and dairy and has been since 6mths. I did start giving her some wheat a while back but have gone really strict again since seeing the osteo. She is also atking fish oil for helping inflammation in the ears and has another appointment next week so hopefully i can get a bit more of an indication how bad the problem is.
lilias - i will definatley get dh to start coming and sitting with us for a while in the room and see how that goes. I had a staff meeting last night and didn't get home until late and Olive was still awake asking for me with dh pulling his hair out. She went to sleep after 10mins. I do think it's her own form of separation anxiety as she has never really had much of it and has had quite a few changes recently. I was also thinking last night about the mattress on the floor idea or me sleeping on her floor for a couple of nights and seeing if that strategy will work. I will wait until i've finished work though as i'm so tired atm.
Marcellus- She hasn't really left me before and has only had one sleep over, the second will be tomorrow night so i think you are right about not doing that and as i said i'm not really comfortable with it either although the theory is well intended by dh.
Thanks for the sympathy - I am so tired!!!