4 months on and DD STILL wont sleep in her cot!

[[M]umma[M]ia]

I dont know what to do. Im at a loss. Mia co-sleeps with us and has been since she was 2 weeks old. She sleeps fine in my bed, no hassles at all. But i dont want it to go on forever. I feel like i have tried everything to get her to sleep in her cot, but she wont. She just cries, then screams and gets so worked up she vomits and i give in.

OH my what am i doing wrong????????????????

[Arimeh]

Its hard when they don't want to do something that we desperately would like them to do!!!!

Miss M sometimes won't go to sleep in her cot - and thats ok ya know. I know this won't last forever, and if she needs me to rock her to sleep - and get her into a really deep sleep - and then put her in - she'll get used to waking up there - and feel comfortable - therefore - will hopefully settle herself in there.

HOPEFULLY ....lol

I did controlled crying with DS, and that is always an option - although - I would never do it again, simply cos of how DS is now. I don't know for sure if thats why he is insecure and clingy at 2 - but all the research points to maybe it could be to blame.

Does it really really bother you? Like, so you can't get things done during the day? Or are you worried about it becoming a bad habit? Do you have a sling that you could put her in to get her to sleep and then just take the sling off and put that in the cot with her?

I know Miss M usually wakes up when I put her in the cot - and sometimes she will fall back asleep when I stroke her head in circles (makes her eyes roll back all the time.. hehe)

So maybe try that? If you haven't already?

Other than that.. umm... try to enjoy it cos it won't last forever? LOL

[kirsty_lee]

It took me AGES / MONTHS to get Ava-jayde to sleep in ANYTHING other than her bouncenette! She refused the cot, she refused a bassinet. It was the only thing she would sleep in! After months of trying I put her in a different bassinette with a hood on it and she slept but then it still took AGES after that to get her into a cot, she wouldn't have a bar of it. babe I know it's hard, but it will get easier i promise

[[M]umma[M]ia]

thanks girls.

I just feel like she "should" be in her cot coz thats where they are meant to be. Ive tried the CC.. didnt work and never ever wish to do it again as i think it did more damage to me than her and our relationship.

I can put her to sleep in there once she falls asleep on my bed but garrenteed she will wake screaming within 5 mins so i leave her on my bed so she gets more sleep IYKWIM.

Yes i am worried about the thought im never going to get my bed back because i have given into her.. if that makes sense.

And i miss mine and DP time.. no cuddles in bed coz shes always in there. SO its not doing much for our relationship.

I tried taking the side off the cot and putting it right next to the bed (thanks katones) but still didnt work.

dont know if its too late to try a bassinet.. shes nearly 60cm long.

[kirsty_lee]

You can get really long bassinets though babe! Or maybe buy one of those um.. snuggle beds to put in the cot!

[Oorki Galoorki]

what if you take the sid eoff the cot and have it against your bed? then she is still close to you but in her own space?