"Sleep right, sleep tight"

[littlelara]

We used it and it worked for us.
Dd is now 5 and ds I'd 3 1/2 and they still go down pretty much 7:00 to 7:00 barring the usual drink requests etc.
No scarring and I think they feel quite secure and content; they know what's expected and they know what to expect.

[Just Me]

I guess I was quite rigid with it because we were desperate by the time we used it and it made sense. It worked really well but now I am not as rigid with it though I still follow the 30 second thing. I don't rush into their rooms straight away when they start crying. If they cry for 30 seconds I go in but it works extra well with DD2's naptime in the afternoon - she often wakes up 40 mins into and cries. If I wait 30 seconds, sometimes she stops and sleeps on for another hour or two.

I think I can tell the difference too between a distressed cry and a cry when they are resettling themselves. I respond to a distressed cry. If I interrupt them during resettling, I find I just wake them up and they scream more because they weren't really awake, if that makes sense.

I think the info in there about establishing a bedtime routine is also good.

We used the program with DD1 and I don't think it scarred her but I guess I have found my own way of making it all work using a range of routines with my kids because I didn't enjoy patting her while she cried for up to 20 mins. I have tried settling my other babies by patting and rubbing them in their beds at some point or another - sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I don't leave them to scream while I do it though. I guess I kind of go with my instincts more - you can tell if something is working or not - if they seem to be settling and not really crying, then I do it. If they seem to be getting distressed I pick them up. I also try it when I have been rocking them in my arms and they still scream. Sometimes not having the screaming right next to my ear helps me feel more calm.

I think if it works for you and you are comfortable - go for it. I think there is some good info and advice in that book.

Good luck