So who didn't do the whole self settling deal?

[Kmn]

We did it when DS was about 2 - but not as a tiny tacker.

[Cranky Kitten]

I sort of did with DD when she was around 8 months old, but soon gave it up as a bad joke. She always was a good sleeper though, would often just lay down after a bed-time story, snuggle up to her teddy and off to sleep.

So far with DS, I'm just following his lead. He feeds to sleep most of the time, but every so often he'll push me away and look at his cot. So I put him down, and he'll chatter/grumble to himself for a bit then nod off. I'm not messing with it, we're onto a good thing.

I don't want bed-time to be a stressful, negative experience. Cuddles, bed-time stories and wind down talking about our day all make going to bed a restful, relaxing time.

[Cassius2]

if it isnt broken dont try to 'fix it' is all i can say lol.

we never self settled with DD2 and she now does it all by herself (like a big girl lol). they get there in the end, and if his sleep is so solid, i wouldnt mess with it!

[~Kim~]

I was the same after DD1. It's such a relief when you realise you really don't have to follow what other people say.
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As an aside I feel like such a legend when all three are in bed at 6.30 these days lol, cos I know what a struggle it has been in the past.

[maybebaby2012]

I think different bubs (and mummas) want and need different things. DD was never a self-settler but she is a gorgeous, happy 7 year old now! I will probably comfort other babies to sleep if that is what makes us happy too, but I wouldn't mind the convenience of a bub who was happy to fall asleep without assistance I guess!

[*EJ*]

Honestly in my opinion i think it depends on the child. DS1 self settled from about the 6 month mark and sleep was a beautiful calm place for him. DS2 did too, he was a bit more difficult at times but being in our arms to go to sleep was way too stimulating for him and he hated it. THEN DD came along... I have learnt that there is no way you can make her do something if she doesn't want to (took me 18 months) and i'm already runing scared for what i have ahead of me, neither of us like to give in I fed her to sleep, rocked her to sleep and as much as i loved to do it i also got very frustrated in doing it and it got to the point where it was getting harder and harder to get her to sleep. Would i change any of it?? Probably not, it worked at the time. I made changes when i felt it was needed and she has adapted really well.

My honest opinion is you need to see what it is your DS wants to do. Sounds like things are going really well at the moment so as most have said why make any changes when you are happy with the way things are. If later on you feel you want a change the option is there, he just may take to more than your DD did.

Good luck and most of all enjoy your little man

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I never did self-settle. My son now asks to go to bed when he's tired, tucks himself in if I'm not around and goes to sleep. And he was a shocking sleeper. I nearly had a couple of sleep-deprivation breakdowns.

With Stormy, I'm going to be even more relaxed than I was with Liebs. I think that's possible...

[Maruschke]

DD2 already self settles . She was never cuddled or fed to sleep in the SCN, and at home I can feed her then burp, change bum, feed, burp, then wrap and put down to sleep fully awake and she takes herself off to sleep without fail. I saw no reason to break the habit now we are home.

[onthefly]

My DD did for the first month or two, then grew out of it lol Now she's starting toward it again.