So who didn't do the whole self settling deal?

[black_rose]

I held and cuddled all my kids to sleep as long as I could, quite often in a carrier. I loved the quiet time and snuggles.

I didn't co sleep with them but would transfer them into the bassinette and them cot once they were asleep. I never let them cry for long if they woke up overnight, I believe they are crying for a reason and found it was easier to settle them if I responded quicker.

All of mine eventually self settled on their own, probably about 10 months and I think it's because they knew that we would be their for them if they needed something.

I am a believer in doing whatever works for you whether it's cuddling and comforting to sleep or letting them self settle.

[fionas]

I did with DD1 but with no crying. And I do mean no crying. She self settled from about six weeks and has been doing that ever since and sleeping through the night. I would just rock her until she was drowsy and then let her do the rest herself when she was really little. Gradually I cut out the rocking.

DD2 is a completely different kettle of fish. She is nearly two and still doesn't self settle and I have no intention of 'teaching' her with controlled crying.

Some children self-settle easily, some children don't.

[kelsbels]

Thanks girls, just going to wait and see how he goes.

If we can just get his wind sorted out life would be much easier!

[luna moth]

I had a go a few times. It worked twice, and both times I had to stand there and watch her, because it felt weird... so not much point! I have an awesome sleeper now, who asks for bed when she wants it, and goes down super easily.

Drinking peppermint tea seemed to help with wind here. And babywearing.

[Chrispe]

Kelsbels, go with your instincts on this.

I did everything wrong (according to the books & CHN advice) and fed to sleep from day 1 with all of mine.

And even though I put DS1 on the bottle at 4 months I still fed & cuddled him to sleep as this is what he was used to. At around 6 months is when I started a 'proper' bedtime routine (dinner, bath, feed, bed). And even then my little ones didn't self settle until around 12 months.
If your little tacker is sleeping fine don't change a thing. In fact I have heard many an older mum say how they wish they had cuddled their kids more.....
They grow up way too fast, I for one have as many baby cuddles as I can because there comes a day when they think they are 'too big' for cuddles!

Edit: Kelsbels, just wondering if it is actually wind (air bubble trapped in the digestive system) or possibly silent reflux(milk coming back up the throat, like heart burn)?
(I'm just having a guess based on what you said about him waking 10-15 min later) a GP who specializes with kids or a Pediatrician might be able to help you figure out exactly what it is. Although if it doesn't bother him too much don't worry.

[kelsbels]

Thanks chrispe.

He was diagnosed silent reflux and medicated, but we had a course of treatment with a paed chiro and the reflux was 'cured'.
When he wakes I pick him up, he always does 3 or 4 burps and then I put him back down and he generally settles for a good sleep. Sometimes it'll take a couple of burps to get it right.

I assume it's just still an immature gut so fingers crossed it gets better soon!

[onthefly]

he's only little - everything is still developing.

[Chrispe]

Yeah
Mine have all had various types of reflux- at 3-4 months old it's still very common, & still maturing. Glad to hear it sounds like it's well under control.

(I've had friends who didn't know why their baby was screaming all the time & the doctors didn't diagnose the reflux for months, so now when I hear the symptoms I automatically ask)

Well done!

[kelsbels]

So after resolving not to worry about his sleep habits and lack of self settling, turns out he prefers to be in his bassinet with his sister's musical seahorse and put himself to sleep. Can't believe it. Gee my kids are like chalk and cheese!

[TeniBear]

The closest we come to self settling is when DD finds the boob on her own without me directing her to it and feeds herself back to sleep


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[Butterfly Dawn]

I would start questioning whoever is pressing you as to why they feel you need to change anything when babe is getting good night sleeps. In my experience you only change things when your not getting the results you want.
We went through hell with our 1st as well when all he wanted was to feel safe and cuddle up with us to sleep. We didn't stop listening until he was about 14mths. Never listened to anybody again about how children should sleep.
They will move out of your bed when they are ready. And then its great to make their room up together.



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