So worried about my little man

**~mamaspice~** · February 22nd, 2011, 03:56 PM

DS is 6 months old this week, and he still hasn't rolled over and he refuses to bear his own weight on his legs, he just collapses them like Jelly. He also doesn't seem to have an overly strong back. When you hold him over the shoulder he always sort of cuddles in to you and doesnt try to hold himself up.
I've been worried about it for a few months but kept telling myself he was just being a little lazy, but then when I discussed it with his daycare teacher the other day she said she had noticed these things too so it made it really confronting hearing it form someone else IYKWIM. In fact I cried all the way to work after that discussion.

Don't get me wrong, he kicks his legs about and uses his arms and grasps things but it's like he doesn't have good core strength.

I'm so so worried he might have cerebral palsy.

he definately is displaying some of the indicators of it (I don't think Dr Google is doing me any favours re-assurance wise)

I've got him in to see a paed next monday.

I'm so so worried for my precious little boy.

**Phteven** · February 22nd, 2011, 04:09 PM

It is an awful feeling when someone else agrees with you about your fears for your baby.
Lots of babies develop differently. All those milestones in books are just averages some babies achieve them earlier and other babies achieve them much later.

Good luck at your paed appointment on Monday. I hope that time doesn't drag too much between now and then. For your own peace of mind, please try and stay away from Dr Google .

***Ash*** · February 22nd, 2011, 04:13 PM

Oh hugs hun. It is so hard to carry the burden of worry and concern for our little ones. I truly hope that your DS is perfectly healthy, and that there is a simple explanation and solution. I hope that you can stay positive until your appointment, and not let the negative thoughts run wild and keep you awake at 3am (I need to learn this).

Sending my love and strength.

**starangelk** · February 22nd, 2011, 05:10 PM

Oh no, there is nothing worse than worrying, especially when you know there is nothing you can do to change the outcome. I hope your pead appointment comes quickly and that you have wonderful news that nothing is wrong. It's probably the only time you will want to be told you have a lazy baby though

A friend of mine had this problem with her little girl and she ended up just being a "lazy baby." Her crawling and walking were delayed but by 3 years old you would never have known the difference! Please come back and let us know how you get on. Xx

**Floweryfields** · February 22nd, 2011, 05:16 PM

We have a red flag chart at work, and we recently were looking at the supporting own weight part last week - our chart says to be concerned if that isn't occuring by 12 months....some babies are much slower to start, but you will often find that once they start, it's a big flow on effect and lots of milestones fall in a short period of time.

Worrying is a very normal part of being a good mummy - because it means you are aware of things, I've seen a few parents in my time who are totally oblivious to any problems their child may have.....so while worrying sucks, at least it means you're a great mum!!

I hope you get your answers at your visit and everything will be just fine!

**~mamaspice~** · February 22nd, 2011, 06:54 PM

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It is an awful feeling when someone else agrees with you about your fears for your baby.QUOTE]
Thanks, it sure is Onyx, I was kind of hoping that she would say that she sees lots of bubs developing at diffent rates but when she actually bought up the fact that he doesn't roll before I did it really made my heart sink

Oh hugs hun. It is so hard to carry the burden of worry and concern for our little ones. I truly hope that your DS is perfectly healthy, and that there is a simple explanation and solution. I hope that you can stay positive until your appointment, and not let the negative thoughts run wild and keep you awake at 3am (I need to learn this).

Sending my love and strength.

Thanks Ash, it's so hard not to think all the worse case scenarios.

It's probably the only time you will want to be told you have a lazy baby though

A friend of mine had this problem with her little girl and she ended up just being a "lazy baby." Her crawling and walking were delayed but by 3 years old you would never have known the difference! Please come back and let us know how you get on. Xx

Thanks starangelk, yep if thats all it is, he can be as lazy as he wants

We have a red flag chart at work, and we recently were looking at the supporting own weight part last week - our chart says to be concerned if that isn't occuring by 12 months....some babies are much slower to start, but you will often find that once they start, it's a big flow on effect and lots of milestones fall in a short period of time.

Worrying is a very normal part of being a good mummy - because it means you are aware of things, I've seen a few parents in my time who are totally oblivious to any problems their child may have.....so while worrying sucks, at least it means you're a great mum!!

I hope you get your answers at your visit and everything will be just fine!

Thanks Ausgirl, that's somewhat re-assuring to know the chart says 12 months. I forgot to mention in my OP but DS was also born with a crooked gluteal cleft. The paed checked it out at the time and said it was nothing to be concerned about, but now I'm wondering whether it could be an indication of an issue.

He is such a delightful little man, I'm really hoping that he's just lazy, or at worst case scenario he needs some physio to get his strength up.

I'll keep you guys posted on what the paed says.

thanks again xxx

***Sparklez*** · February 22nd, 2011, 08:07 PM

No advice just big hugs...

I prey you get some good news , he sounds delightful..

**Cherished** · February 23rd, 2011, 07:22 AM

Aw hon, if it is a core strength issue my chiro told me a great thing to do for babies core strength is to hold them on a fit ball and gently roll the fit ball front to back and side to side and bub will be using their core muscles to stay on the ball (with your gentle assistance to hold them on there). I really hope it's nothing too serious. I'm sure you're just being a concerned mumma and it'll all be ok

On a separate note did you get me pm yesterday?

**~clover~** · February 23rd, 2011, 07:36 AM

I bet you are freaking out, but I also bet he's fine

Does he have much tummy time? A friend of mine has noticed a massive difference with her girls, after the second has had alot more tummy time than the first.
She's still going at her own pace, but is moving along a bit earlier than her sister did.
Try not to stress x

**krystals** · February 23rd, 2011, 07:36 AM

I really hope there's an easy explanation and solution for you. FWIW my boy is 6 months this week and he doesn't roll. His physio has said it's not a problem at the moment, as babies do develop at different rates. Does your bubba hold his head up during tummy time?

Heaps of love and fingers crossed you can get some reassuring answers soon x

***Beema*** · February 23rd, 2011, 08:51 AM

Oh hun GBH

It is possible that there are other issues and not necessary CP, DD1 had hypermobility, and didn't roll until she was nearly 14 months old, she also had some low tone issues so her core muscles were weak, so wasn't able to support herself to sit up. She wasn't diagnosed until she was 11 1/2 months because I thought that she would roll anyday now and that she was just a late bloomer....

it wasn't until I really noticed that she would fight movements and hated tummy time with a passion that I thought I would ask the OT at our prem playgroup and she then recommended seeing the physios and it all went from there. It was quite a bit of hardcore physio, daily sessions by us and weekly at the hospital but it was amazing what she was able to achieve once she had support and we learnt how to help her.

But his other movements sound positive.

Hopefully what the Paed will suggest first is an assessment by a paediatric physio, to check for low tone and hypermobility issues. Oh and FWIW when we saw DD1's Paed when we had DD2 and told him she DD1 had hypermobility and some low tone he was really surprised, so he/she may not be able to say yes or no straight away.

Take care hun xxoo

**~mamaspice~** · February 23rd, 2011, 11:40 AM

Oh hun GBH

It is possible that there are other issues and not necessary CP, DD1 had hypermobility, and didn't roll until she was nearly 14 months old, she also had some low tone issues so her core muscles were weak, so wasn't able to support herself to sit up. She wasn't diagnosed until she was 11 1/2 months because I thought that she would roll anyday now and that she was just a late bloomer....

it wasn't until I really noticed that she would fight movements and hated tummy time with a passion that I thought I would ask the OT at our prem playgroup and she then recommended seeing the physios and it all went from there. It was quite a bit of hardcore physio, daily sessions by us and weekly at the hospital but it was amazing what she was able to achieve once she had support and we learnt how to help her.

But his other movements sound positive.

Hopefully what the Paed will suggest first is an assessment by a paediatric physio, to check for low tone and hypermobility issues. Oh and FWIW when we saw DD1's Paed when we had DD2 and told him she DD1 had hypermobility and some low tone he was really surprised, so he/she may not be able to say yes or no straight away.

Take care hun xxoo

Hi Beema, I'm actually starting to think that hypotonia or hypomobility might be it. Brock hates tummy time too. Thanks for sharing your story about N, It's given me some hope that with some help we can get on the right track. The paed I'm taking him to has a physio that works in conjunction with them. Will keep you updated on what happens Monday.

**OceanPrincess** · February 24th, 2011, 06:42 PM

Yaay little man!! Great to hear!

***Beema*** · March 1st, 2011, 01:52 PM

Hey hun, just wondering how the Paed appointment went yesterday?
Thinking of you xxoo

**~mamaspice~** · March 2nd, 2011, 11:28 AM

Hey hun, just wondering how the Paed appointment went yesterday?
Thinking of you xxoo

hey Beems

thanks so much for checking in. B had his 6 month GP check last friday and she gave him a good looking over and said that she thinks he's just a little on the lazy side and that I should give him a couple more months and if still concerned then go to the paed. Hence I ended up cancelling Mondays paed appointment and have one made for April JIC.