Thanks snacks, its good to hear that the staff are nice to your DD and embrace her personality that does help to put my mind at ease a bit.
I reckon DS puts it on for me, he's definitely different with me than he is with his daddy. He winges and pushes me a lot more that DH but i guess that because dh is bigger, louder and tougher than me lol

I also worry how he'll be with group activities because he's not the kind of boy who will just sit and do Art/craft for 1/2 hour, he likes painting and drawing but only for about 5mins then he's up and off to the next thing so i'm a little nervous about how he'll go with the structured activities or games where he has to follow a specific order of doing things if that makes sense?