still won't go in cot and 9 months old

[queenbee]

I choose not to use controlled crying as many months ago I did it and my daughter and I both got stressed. I ended up with sleep deprivation and had to see my doctor. Just don't want to go down that path again.

My daughter had been sleeping on me for her day sleeps up until about 2 months ago but now sleeps in our bed through the day. She has always slept with us at night.

I have tried everything, wrapping, music, patting, getting her used to sitting in cot to play, everything. Nothing works. I am quite happy to let her co-sleep, just wondering whether anyone has experienced the same issues with their 9 month old child? And whether it ever gets better and they just go into their cot eventually?

Thanks for your help

[Arimeh]

I've never actually had this problem cos my kids don't sleep with me (DD did in the beginning to get her to settle when waking up a couple of times a night - but she will now settle in her bassinette).. but is it possible to move the cot next to your bed with the edge of it down so you are still right next to her and can touch her with your arm?

[aussienic]

I to wold suggest moving the cot right next to your bed and see how she goes there..

or maybe move her right into a cot sized toddler bed? not sure how mobile your DD is or anything though

[Girly Girl]

Queenbee you are not alone i have a 10 and a half month old that refuses to sleep in her cot.. everything you have said sounds exactly like what it's like in my house only thing is i have to cuddle my girl in her day sleeps because she is two fidgity to be left alone in our bed. we have moved her cot into our room next to our bed with no luck.
We also co-sleep.

i am just on my way out but i will pop back and post more later i just wanted you to know you are not alone and i would love to swap stories with you

back later

[Curly]

At this point I'd be thinking about not worrying about the cot at all and going straight to a big kids' bed when you are ready (whether toddler-sized or full-size single, up to you).

We moved DS into his big bed at about 19 months and he finally started sleeping through, we were always breastfeeding or rocking to sleep. We wish we'd done it months earlier LOL. He just has a bed rail on both sides of the bed. I think he feels less "enclosed".

Mind you, he doesn't climb out. If he wakes up he just yells out for us until we come and get him. I don't know if this is because he likes the snuggles when we come and get him or because he always slept in a sleeping bag so is used to not being able to climb (although he climbs all over the bed during the day).

I guess it depends on your DD. If you think she will always be climbing out of the bed, this may not be the solution for you!

[queenbee]

Thanks everyone, she gets straight up and starts crawling out of bed! Most of the time she cries but she has almost fallen off the edge! The cot converts to a toddler bed, is it too early do you think?