Hi... sorry to hear youre having such a problem. I have my 3 girls in the one room. DD1 was a little like your dd1.... in and out all night til she fell asleep and would creep into our bed and sleep with us. Any time we put her back she would have a massive tantrum which is not something we wanted during the wee hours. It took us ages to get her like she is now (a kiss, cuddle, goodnight, close door). I was so sick of having to put her back all the time so I resorted to sitting with her in the dark for ages until she would fall asleep. Then we did story time in the dark, we did counting, singing. Sometimes I would sit there with her for a few hours. It was pretty crap actually.... I wasnt enjoying her at all at nights. ABout 6 to 8 months ago, she just decided she could do it. She was about 3.5years old.
As for nights we made a rule of no kids in with us until after 6am unless they were sick. So we just kept putting them back to bed.... with dd1 we always had to lay with her til she fell asleep... she also grew out of that,
DD2... just went with the flow of it all and when she went into a bed at 18 months she was a bit of a pain to keep in but got the hang of it.
DD3 is only 6 months old....
One thing I would tend to agree with if they are sharing a room is to keep their bed times the same. That way they can talk to each other, tell each other to be quiet... And then you dont have to do 2 seperate routines... you get to finish up with the both of them and have some well deserved you time. I hope she works it out for you real soon.
I had my 2 oldest boys share a room and they are 2 years apart when we were going through either of them coming out of their bed/room after it was their bed time we just kept getting up turning them around and marching them straight back to bed we had to keep it up for a few nights(even if they cried) but they learnt we were not going to give in so you MUST be consistent if you give in once they win and will know they can break you lol( so to speak) and we always used a specific word for bed time so they knew it was bed time we used nigh nigh time they boys both went to bed at the same time until they were in school and went with no fuss once 7:30 hit and i said nigh nigh time so teeth book and bed.
One exception was if they were sick they were allowed to sleep with mum and dad but that was the only time as DH and i value our alone time you need to draw the line somewhere and co sleeping is so uncomfortable i just cant handle it.
Oh and like minnimatron said 6am was when they were allowed in for cuddles during the nigh absolutely a no go zone.
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