Tell me this GRUMPY IRRITABILITY ends at 3 months old?

[Em_325]

It is normal. DS was a reflux and colic baby and was pretty miserable for the first 3 months. For us at around 14 weeks he turned a corner and has been a mostly happy delightful baby since. At 3 months old I wouldn't expect her to be able to self settle. Sure some babies do it but most still need the comfort of Mum. I would forget all about any form of controlled crying at this age she is too young. The biggest thing I had to learn was to surrender to DS's needs. He was a terrible night sleeper and I went insane with trying to find ways to get him to sleep longer stretches at night and it wasn't until I stopped fighting it and accepted he needed me to re settle during the night that it got better. Just remember you can't spoil a young baby so if she needs to be rocked to sleep rock her and transfer. Even now at 8 months DS still sometimes needs me to help him get to sleep during the day so I'll rock him or lay down and cuddle him to he is asleep. I know how draining it is when they just seem to cry all day long but hang in there it does get better

[onthefly]

Hi
Congrats on your baby. Wanting to be held and not sleeping alone is perfectly normal for human infants, so please don't think there's anything wrong with her, nor is meeting her needs the wrong thing to do.
Is she feeding well? What are her symptoms for the reflux? Does she just want to be held - do you use a sling or carrier to help settle her more easily?
She's not grumpy, she's just communicating with you. She's a good talker, hey? That's going to be really good for her when she's older and needs to stick up for herself. Hang in there.