My almost 3 dd seems to have gotten a slow start on the terrible 2's and it's starting to get on top of me.

1. ***- she won't stop saying for f sake. She only does it if she is frustrated and we explained alternative words and it was a bad word. Still catch her saying it!

2. Jumping on furniture and climbing on drawers...... This has resulted in a big hole in the wall where she has twice now pulled her net down with all her stuffed toys. We ask her again and again to ask us for help, she can have what she wants but needs to ask. I'm at the point where I'm considering taking her bed away and making her sleep on the floor.

3. Tantrums...... Do I need to explain? So embarrassing and I handle them by leaving her, even if we are out. I'll walk a metre or 2 away and wait. Embarrassing yes very but worse the way I handle it doesn't seem acceptable to dh. He thinks I'm letting her get away with it. It's causing friction between us.

4. Talking back. She is yelling back at us and even hitting. Getting angry at her means she then gets angrier and generally turns into a tantrum.

5. Generally not listening. Touching EVERYTHING in the shops, won't clean up toys, walking away from us when out, won't stay seated when eating etc etc. If we ask her not to do something and explain why she still goes and does it.

She has to do everything her way. Every morning I get a tantrum about doing her hair. Last week she didn't want to stay at dance class so I went to go home she screamed and wanted to stay. This happened 3 times before I had enough and took her home. It took 20 minutes to get her into the car..... Screaming kicking dry retching because she wanted to stay at dance.

I dont know how much more I can take!!!! Help. I'm worried I'm letting her grow up getting away with things and that no matter what I try it will never change. What if she is 6 7 or 8 and is seriously still like this???