I'd love to say talking to her works during tantrums but it doesnt, you cant get close enough withoug being hit. I try to tell her to take a deep breath and calm down. When I can finally get to her I do talk calmly and ask her if it was a nice feeling having the tantrum. Of course she says no. Then we have a talk. Still doesnt deter the tantrum behaviour in any way.

I know kids dont know how to express emotions yet. I've studied psych for 3 years so have learnt a lot about it, but it still hasnt helped being in the situation where nothing seems to work. I guess I just needed to vent.

Thanks for the advice girls, and if anything else pops up PLEASE let me know how you dealt with the situation.

I guess my biggest problem is the friction with me and dh. I try and let her dress herself - its obvious its what she wants to do and why we are arguing about it in the morning, but again dh thinks I'm letting her do as she pleases. How else will she learn and its not a big ask on her behalf to want to dress herself. Will have to start getting up a little earlier because she takes so long but again its to be expected.

Some things we are working on well, others we are not. We have a naughty corner, which she doesnt like, but still isnt deterring any behaviour. Consequence led behaviour management isnt working, because the destructiveness has led to her losing her teddies because we cant put them in her room anymore because there is no space and the hole means no more net...... still she did it again once we fixed the hole and got the teddies back in there.

Argh.

TGF Work....... LOL...... I only work pt but without it I think I would be at my absolute wits end by now. At least I can still appreciate some of the time we get together because we have some time apart : )