Thanks so much everyone... i think the mummy guilt is prob the worst thing thats still lurking... but it was so awful and made worse as it is something i have often worried would happen. anyway, i hope it stops someone from being in the same situation...
he was pretty brave and as gorgeous as ever...

travel cup is a great idea - i have always liked having my tea out of a china cup (yes I am a little pedantic and part english) but what a great tip. will be buying some travel cups tomorrow. thanks.