you need to bring CJ to hang out with E - she is heavier than CJ!! i've seen pics of your DD and she most definitely isn't overweight (IMO) - you must have lots of "dainty" kidlets in your friends group!
I think that is the thing - my view of what is normal had been swayed by lifting all her friends.

You have to wonder is it helpful to anyone to have charts that seem so wildly off.