Time to drop her morning nap? need some advice

[NaeNae]

Right so its 11.30 and DD has JUST gone down ....... I have had a big cry so now what? do I let her sleep beyond 12? if I do then she won't want her arvo nap at 2.30 nor will she be tired enough by her regular bed time ....... what the hell is going on with this kid, seriously its every friggin day that we are battling over her naps and I don't think I can cope much longer

[briggsy's girl]

Nae, E has weaned herself off having two day naps - she now goes down between 11 and 11.30 and will sleep for approx 2.5-3 hours. she gets a bit ratty in the arvo before dinner, but not enough to need a sleep. maybe Shae is trying to let you know she doesn't need two sleeps and just wants one long one... that transition period is painful (and we still have issues as my mum doesn't stick with our routine when E is there)...

[Arimeh]

I'd try putting her down at 10.30/11 and see what she does. There is an adjustment period (which we are going through, we've got the long nap figured out, just adjusting to dropping the second) but a few weeks and she should be fine.

Hang in there

She might be ready for just the one nap, and this is the only way she can show you. DD1 dropped down to one nap at 11 months, DD2 is getting close to 11 months, so I am thinking she will be the same.

[MrsFabuloso]

I agree with the other girls, sounds to me like she's trying to drop a sleep. It's a tough time and some days she may still need two sleeps. Maybe if you can give her just the one sleep at about 11/11.30ish and then put her to bed at about 6/6.30 for the night? That's how we first started with DS when he dropped a day sleep. He now goes down at 12ish, sleeps til 1.30/2.30 then goes to bed at 7pm. He has just turned two though and we have adjusted the times a few times. Good luck dropping sleeps sucks! I hope she gets a new routine sorted ASAP!

[NaeNae]

Thank you ladies mmwwaaaahhhaa

I can't keep from crying today I am just a mess over these battles. I think you're both right perhaps she is letting me know she is no longer needing her morning nap, maybe its just too soon from waking for her (wakes 7ish then normally would go down 9-9.30) I think tomorrow if I will try 10-10.30 and if we still battle then we will just have to cut it out completely.

I feel SOOOOOOOO bad about yelling at her, I even just sat her on the floor crying and went off and vaccumed I was so fed up and now I feel so guilty an dlike such a bad mum its horrible, I really hate it because I remind myself of my own mother when I get like that and I swore I would never parent the way she did

NOW - what do I do - should I wake her or let her sleep?? we usually have lunch at 1 but she has only slept for 30 min??!1

[Olive]

let her sleep darl if you dont think you'll get her down later

DD2 dropped to one sleep at 12 months, she goes down every day at around 12pm she only sleeps for on average 75 mins, it can less, from 60-120 mins though, she goes down around 6.30 and up at 6.37am on the dot

[~Hestia~]

Just before 12 months Moo was really battling the arvo nap (and I really wanted him to keep it!) and I was feeling very frustrated, so big hugs darl.
In the end we just went with the flow. If he didn't have an arvo nap we put him to bed earlier that night. We found every few days he'd want an arvo nap for a couple of days while he transitioned. Now he just has 1 to 2 hours in the morning. Some days he still needs another sleep, I've actually just put him down as his morning nap was quite short today. Hoping he'll have a little kip otherwise it's going to be a very long afternoon!
It's hard when they change things around on you! Hope she sorts herself out soon.

[~me~]

I would let her sleep as long as she wants Nae.
Perhaps you could try something like this
Breakfast and BF when waking
Snack at around 9-10
Lunch at 11am then BF to sleep or if still awake put her down and see what she does.
Afternoon snack around 3pm
Dinner 5pm-6pm then bath feed and bed when she is ready.

You probably have an extra BF or two in there.

It's a tough transition from 2 sleeps to 1 sleep. I have followed Tess' lead. It helps that she has the distraction of her brother to keep her amused.
Another thing to try is perhaps put a morning walk in around sleep time and see if she sleeps in the pram? You could either try and transfer her from the pram or let her sleep in the pram?

It will get better Nae