First off, there is no point in being scared! What will be will be.....and you WILL cope!
If you look at my sig, my three are close together. 17 months between Olivia and Charlie and then just 14 months between Charlie and Lexie. When Lexie was born I had 3 under 3.
If I can do it, anyone can, LOL!
Don't forget that newborns will sleep a lot in those first weeks....take advantage of this time to either get your older one to nap too, so that YOU can nap too. I shamlessly maniplulated their sleeps to try and get them to sleep at the same time at lunchtime, even just for 30 mins, so I could regroup!
Others may disagree, but I also had no shame in exploiting the DVD player for a while in the early weeks so that I could sit on the couch with the newborn and BF, knowing that the older ones would be entertained.
Try and get a groove happening for bedtime rituals as soon as you can. Then if your day goes to all hell, at least you know the bath & bedtime is coming and that that will be the "restart" button for all........
Easier said than done, but try to go with the flow.......let the house go if needs be, and allow them to get to know each other too.......the joy of seeing my 3 together more than makes up for the bedlam.......and literally kept me sane in the early weeks when Lexie was born........to see Olivia and Charlie beng gentle and kissing Lexie.....bliss.
IS anyone trying to put their 14 month old in a big bed now? in time to transition before bub is due?
we have bought a bed are are going to try this weekend... is it too soon - we have a side rail
PP - I put Nina in a big bed when she was 15 months old. It was such an easy transition. We've never had any problems with it.
The DVD definitely came in handy. Also, I used to prepare Nina's food the night before, and have it all in a lunch box in the fridge. That way when meal time came, it wouldn't take much to get Nina's food out, in case I was attending to Nina.
Like Maz said, books, crafts, anything they can be left to play with and entertain themselves with for a while you look after the baby.
Get a mega sketch. Get hard books andthing. I always make sure that if im with the baby that im reading, drawing..playing lego (the big blocks) even just singing with the older baby.
My only problem I have is that Vy gets to lovey and smoothers Mateauz all the time...its gotten worse that he's rolling now but then I distract her and get her to 'help' me. When i give mateauz tummy time, I get the washing out to fold and get Vy to help me...she ask's me who's it is and I tell her...mums...dads...Vyoletts....whoevers and he gets his time and she gets my time
Feed times we're a headache...so i made sure I had plenty of tiny teddies in the cupboard and a little bowl and 'cup' of water for the older baby to have so they weren't left out then either.
its tricky but once you get your groove it tends to be beautiful.
Enjoy having your 2 under 2...they group up being VERY close
ETA - YES DVD has saved my world!!!!!!! I know ever word of the night gardern off by heart
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