Oh he's forever playing trumpet with it! As soon as the nappy is off his hand is on it!
Same here! I think it's just because he doesn't get much time with it (always in nappies) that it's so alluring! I too wouldn't call it masturbation - he's just exploring. I'm sure he'll get to that point (probably way before I want him too), but I'm certainly going to be careful about how I approach it. I think it's very important to ensure no guilt is associated with the action - just privacy. Too many people have been messed up by making them feel guilty...

No idea about girls though.. I know I read once about a toddler (or maybe a little older??) who would rub herself on the arm of a chair in obvious pleasure, but I don't know what was done about it... sorry Danni - not much help, am I??