Yep, dd is 3 in a few weeks and whoa! We have some major meltdowns. We had a 45 minute screaming session in th e middle of Lorne because she wanted a 'tiny little ice cream milkshake like that kid at the bike shop'. If you figure out what they means, let me know. She fell asleep sobbing because we couldn't decipher that gem.

I agree your dp might need some strategies, or you two might need to discuss your family approach to tantrums. Ignoring e most of it works for us, and some validating, and then cuddles.

The more I validate the faster it passes.