Toddler tantrums! What's "normal"??

[Arcadia]

Yep, dd is 3 in a few weeks and whoa! We have some major meltdowns. We had a 45 minute screaming session in th e middle of Lorne because she wanted a 'tiny little ice cream milkshake like that kid at the bike shop'. If you figure out what they means, let me know. She fell asleep sobbing because we couldn't decipher that gem.

I agree your dp might need some strategies, or you two might need to discuss your family approach to tantrums. Ignoring e most of it works for us, and some validating, and then cuddles.

The more I validate the faster it passes.

[Glass half full]

Thanks so much ladies, sometimes it helps just knowing other people are going through the same thing

I think we could both definitely benefit from learning some strategies to better deal with the tantrums. I feel I cope pretty well most of the time when I'm on my own, but when DF has had enough he gets angry and we are sort of working against each other and then we end up upset with each when the situation is well and truly over I know the main issue is just that we need to agree on how to react/deal with them, but it's easier said than done when we have different ideas of what works best. *sigh* We'll get there.

Thanks again

[trishalishous]

ive found that giving as much choice as i can, all the time, has helped a bit. very tiring to coinstanty say 'shall we walk out the front door, or the back door?' 100 times a day, but we get less problems

[WannabeMum]

It's exhausting isn't it. DH and I have such different techniques. And at the moment, with him home helping after DD was born a couple of weeks ago, in some ways I'm finding it even more challenging! Sounds awful, but I'm more patient than DH, and him being here actually decreases my patience. I don't want him to go back to work, the help he gives is invaluable, but dealing with a tantrum throwing 2-y-o? Oh lordy, ready for that to stop. Apparently we have another 16 years or so (according to my Mum).