Two or more kids ..

[HotI]

depends on how long the help will take, and what mess the other will create while waiting.

when #2 was a young baby, he was easier to get to sleep, so he got first priority and then i could focus on #1 to help her to sleep. However, if #1 was on the edge about to drop, then i would settle her first.

Toilet training was another tricky time. If #1 was rushing to toilet, or indicating she needed to go, then as long as #2 was safe he got left while i helped out #1.

Now #2 is toilet training, he gets priority (because i don't want to clean any more mess than i have to).

I hated it at the start realising that i couldn't commit myself completely to one child anymore.

[JLeigh29]

Good question...I've been wondering how this will work when DH goes back to work and my mum goes home. DS 'needs' someone with him at all times.. I don't think it'll be an issue about who gets left, as DS follows us around 100% of the time! My thoughts are that DS2 needs to take priority, but DS can get very upset very quickly and if I'm trying to settle DS2 for example, DS could make it near on impossible if he decides he should be #1....