VENT I can't stand the whinging!!

[~StarBright~]

Your so not alone!!!! My DS is a whinger, whiner and yes.. cry baby 3 yo!!! I agree on the teaching them to ask nicely. DS is a champion whinger!!!! (3 and a half.. but it HAS gotten better in the last few months!!!!) And when he is whining or whinging too much, we simply say, "You arnt getting _________ until you stop whinging and ask nicely for it using nice words" Its amazing how INSTANTLY his demeanour changes, and he asks nicely!!!! And then how INSTANTLY it can swing right back there if I have done something "wrong" in getting him what he wanted (eg wrong plate or bowl or heaven forbid I cut his apple!!!!!)



The other thing we have started is that he gets sent to his room if he is just in one of his "moods" and whinges at everything or cries at the drop of the hat.. its then either time for a rest or some alone time in his room until he is ready to come back out and play nicely. This is a nice break for me and for him. He will usually come back out on his own in a better mood. i dont shut the door (unless DD is trying to follow him and then its to keep her out not him in) and i dont inforce a time, he just has to go there until he is ready to be calm and talk normally. And if he comes out and isnt ready, he goes back again. This has helped a lot. He still has his days where it just doesn stop- but that usually after a big day or week and he is just a bit frazzled and exhuasted and tired and just needs some TLC xoxo

I hope your LO grows out of it soon xoxox

DD (one and a half) is now getting to the point where she is starting.. but she is much more forcefull in her demands lol. She screams. Its fun.

[*EJ*]

Ok so i see i'm not a alone, i sympathise with you all

Starbright i know what you about the change when it's pointed out to them. If only they realised it really isn't necessary and just asking normally will quite easily get what they want in the first place... for the most part

Tegam i'm starting to take a real good look into our diet for all of us. I already (or so i thought) am really concious of what i give the kids and constantly look at ingrediants but i think there is more that i could be doing. My kids are pretty good for the most part but it can get a little tricky knowing when they are just behaving like kids do or there is a possible reaction to something.

Today was a little better. Better go get him in bed, he hastn't had a day sleep for a few days.

[sloane]

i seem to have a whinger as well! i'm hoping it's just a stage but i'm not convinced it's 'i want' constantly. sometimes explaining that he just needs to use the word for what he wants with a please is enough to get a proper request but sometimes he just loses it. i think i naively thought that if i just explained that he could ask nicely instead of whinging, he'd automatically understand unfortunately i still seem to be repeating this over & over! he's also extremely impatient (no idea where he gets that from)

i guess it's good though that he's moved on from just saying 'no' to everyone & everything, right?!

[*EJ*]

Yep, sounds like he's moved up a scale I wonder what is after the whinging?? Oh wait... no i don't want to know

And yes, is seems that no amount of explaining gets us anywhere

[sloane]

my MIL tells me it should ease off by the time he's about 17 or so

normally it's mainly just directed at me (well, worse if i'm there) but apparently MIL copped it yesterday when he was there for an hour or two.

sometimes i just have to laugh though. when we got back to MILs yesterday there was a dog in her garden & it went something like this:

DS - hello puppy dog
DS - no doggy, go away
*dog moves away*
DS (crying) - i want the dog, i want the dog

if you didn't laugh, you'd cry

[*EJ*]

if you didn't laugh, you'd cry

Oh absolutely!! I sometimes wonder if it's just that he likes the sound of his own voice, he ends up whinging about things that aren't even necessary to whinge about. Kind of like your DS and the dog

Defintely need out own support group