Liz, as was said, your fears are normal. Just remember that every child is different. We have two DD's who have completely different personalities and temperaments but that is what makes them interesting.
Every child goes through different stages as they grow up so with no 2 you are more likely to pick up the signs when this happens.
I think in alot of ways the second child can be easier as you at least have had a bit of experience, whereas with no 1 you are going in blind, you have nothing to guide you so you have to learn as you go.
Oh sweetheart, I reckon if you asked any mum on the street and they were brutally honest, they'd tell you the felt the same. Very very normal.
Right up until DS was born I felt like that, but you do manage. In fact it only takes a very short time to forget what it was like 'before'. Like Mel said - you just manage.
I also totally agree with Rivlas, experience makes the difference.
We have a nearly 3yr ages gap and it works perfectly for us. In fact that's how long I'd wait until I thought I wanted another (unlikely but hey).
I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 7 week old baby.
You know what... you just rise to the occasion
When my bub was 2 days old we had to pack into the car and head to the kids hospital as my DD (2) vomited blood. I cried a bit (hadn't slept yet since labour) but I managed and we all recovered, now they've both got colds and are both waking through the night. And I am sleep deprived but I am soo in love with both of my kids and have never thought twice about our decision.
And I think that everything in terms of parenting is so much easier the second time around, you're much more confident in your parenting and you've gathered lots of experience with your 1st.
Believe in yourself....You can do it!
Its not easy but its wonderful.
Good luck
You're not alone with those thoughts! I'm feeling exactly the same! My DS is 17 months and we'd like to start TTC our 2nd when he turns 2 but I have moments of excitement and moments of fear. I think it's perfectly normal!
Awww thanks so much everyone for your wonderful (and positive) replies! We are definitely going to have bub no.2 and I know that there will be tough times, but nothing beats the unconditional love you give and receive from these lovely little cherubs :-)
DS's first 2 years where full of sickness and sleepless nights for everyone, lots of screaming etc.
just after I got pregnant with dd, we were due to move into our new house. Choose to move DS into a bed at the same time he was 2. due to his sleeping issues we got a king single for him so there would be room for one of us if need be.
his sleep has dramatically improved, not 100% yet, but much better.
We just take one day at a time here, and DS is at the stage where if i'm exhausted in the mornings he can play by himself or watch tv, while I snooze or do something for me. He can also help a tiny bit, by picking things up for me that are on the floor, 'cause it's hard to bend with a new born.
I will mention though, I wish i had more help or had ds in creche more in the weeks leading up to the birth, 'cause I was more exhausted then, than I am now.
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Very very normal.
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